Michon Neal writes,

‘ Why This and Why Now:

I was supposed to have help doing this around my birthday. I’m making this happen myself, because I guess I’m still on my own.

But other Black people don’t have to be. Representation matters, and the creation of MOlpZNgy0SYbtSjC3the Intersectional Non-Monogamy exists to reweave Blackness back into history and to imagine Ebony-filled futures.

Nearly five years ago, Intersectional Non-Monogamy wasn’t on anyone’s radar. This year, at least several nonBlack folks who knew of my work have claimed to be teaching or talking about it. Either way, they’re making money and building social capital off of a Black nonman’s idea, which is disturbingly normal.

Anyway, all I ever want is to knit my kin together and provide integrated education and services to those who need it most.

So I’m giving this another go right now, especially because I paid out of pocket to make and print the special bookmarks because I wanted to give for my birthday, but that didn’t happen.


Diasporic kin, especially the multiply marginalized, sign up to receive a signed copy of Aro Eros Arrows and a bookmark:

If you’re a bookstore, book club, have little neighborhood libraries, or want copies for your class, please use this form:

People with means, money, and who lack melanin, please sign up to sponsor a copy (there will be options for you to purchase one yourself in addition to sponsored copies). There’s no limit on how many books you can sponsor:

About the Book:

“Love is not my motivation; it is my state of being. You cannot tempt me with the promise of your scraps when I feed myself.”

If aromantic people primarily desire friendship or nonromantic partnerships over romance, then how can they practice any recognized form of non-monogamy? And polyamory the practice of having multiple intimate, loving relationships is just for romantic people, right?

The truth is, being aromantic or asexual usually means there’s an emphasis on friendship, which is inherently non-monogamous. Being aromantic means loving a bit differently, but in ways that matter just as much. Knowledge about these experiences and identities can help with clarifying relationship needs, bringing up new possibilities and better choices for relationship format ion, and for turning friendship into something more than a simple throwaway stand in for some potential romantic partner.

Communities built on friendship rather than competition (and let s face it, competitiveness is usually encouraged when it comes to romance) would be more cohesive, less prone to the power dynamics that lead to systemic abuse, and can actually cultivate true agency.

There are plenty of books out there already for straight, white, romantic folks. This is the book Black queer aros never got.

About the Author:

Michón Neal is an autistic BlaQueer impossible alien Othergender Dragon who tattoos trees with the queerest most sinister ink and hurts all over all the time.

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