Glad for a few moments of flow where I can say something I have wanted to say. Thank you to Jena for her post.
Here are the thoughts that are on my mind.
People who use bullying tactics to stop people talking about vaccine injuries are people who are too afraid to peaceably examine the facts in front of us, together, so that we can collaborate towards compassionate solutions.
People who use bullying tactics to stop conversations being initiated by people who have been hurt are people who are unable to practice compassion towards a person in front of them who is hurting.
These are not character insults. The world we live in is extremely stressful. Our widespread trauma is not only invisible, it is very physical.
Lots of people are experiencing legitimate torture, dying of terrible and severe conditions, amidst intense general insistence that none of us seriously use the words that are most accurate to describe these experiences.
Certain over-the-counter pharmaceutical drugs are shown to reduce empathy, perhaps physiologically limiting your access to perceiving and offering compassionate energy.
Some of the people perpetuating vaccine-related bullying tactics stand to make money from their efforts; some of them would receive terrible abuse from others around them if they were found supporting any kind of vaccine conversation.
Both are at a crux of invisible fear and pain that can only be eased with solutions in community.
Safe communication spaces must support both of these kinds of people, too.
Right now, most people do not have easily accessible patterns that tell them how to be compassionate towards others without being harmed themselves, and they are unable to communicate about it in any way that feels safe for them.
All of this will be easier when we have better ways of practicing compassionate interactions.
In the meantime, please try not to bowl over people who are trying to talk about vaccines (or any other topic they maintain is crucial to their health and survival).
Help those who are trying to communicate by listening closely and standing up for their safety in expressing themselves, especially if they are vulnerable and multiply-marginalized.
If you aren’t sure how to do that, I’m very interested in collaborative dialogues where we put together simple templates we can each follow for exactly what we need…
…so that we will no longer be arguing and fighting and exchanging threat responses endlessly.
Then we can get to the part about healing.
Thanks for reading.
If a person seems unable to communicate politely, they may be too traumatized to communicate politely and should be supported where they’re at by a person who can safely offer that support.
Many times polite communication is not possible because a person is being forced to communicate in the worst possible way.
A person in extremity is searching every moment for the way that will work, the way that will reduce pain and difficulty, and the way that they will be safe in community.
Survivors in extreme trauma will calm down and communicate in a more organized way immediately once they get their real needs met and are out of extreme pain.
It is fruitless to blame them for the known symptoms of physiological trauma, or put off repairing communications because you think you already know (often erroneously) what is needed.
We get significantly better results by offering survivors support that eases their suffering and allows them to communicate more effectively — first.
This is the best way to reinstate a calm, kind, productive conversation.
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